When I was 10, I was a really cheesy romantic.
But I wasn’t one of those girls who watched Disney movies, dreaming of the princess I would be someday. No, I’d watch Star Wars and wait for the scene where Han Solo and Princess Leia kiss and be like, “Awww I want that!”
So I wasn’t your typical romantic, but I knew, even at 10 – that I didn’t really mean it when I yelled, “YOU HAVE COOTIES!!!” at every boy who passed me.
My first celebrity crush was this guy:
I’d watch Home Improvements, or Huck Finn, or listen to his voice on Lion King and be like, “Hold my hand and tell me I’m pretty and can we maybe sing I Just Can’t Wait to be King together just ONCE?!!!”
Me and JTT were destined to be married, until this:
I had a crush on NSYNC for a long time (everyone but Joey, Chris and Lance). I only wallpapered my wall with Teen Beat and J-14 NSYNC cutouts for a year or two.
Somewhere after 13 and before 17, I started developing crushes on real life people and that’s when I realized one very important thing that Disney movies and TV shows and NSYNC don’t tell you… SPOILER ALERT:
Romance and being in love isn’t anything like those movies/TV shows/books make it out to be.
In fact… ANOTHER SPOILER ALERT:
All of that stuff in the books and movies are super impractical in the real world.
In movies the boys who like the girls throw rocks at their windows at 3am. When the boys don’t get the appropriate response they always climb up a tree to your second story window (which you left unlocked) and end up in your room.
News flash for you boys… girls don’t wake up from their REM looking like this:
We look more like Tyra with no makeup and pigtails:
Boys who love girls in movies yell out embarrassing things in front of huge crowds of people with their arms outstretched, revealing wayy too many personal things about your relationship with strangers.
They also grab you in public places randomly and quickly dip you for a kiss (sounds romantic but, think about it practically: he grabs you from behind without you being aware and throws you within inches from the ground. Other things to consider: what if he drops you, what if he slams his head into yours mid-kiss… etc.)
The romantic guys in movies and books and TV shows are mostly just creepy (ie. crawling through your window) and over-thoughtful (think about how long it would take for you to clean up a room full of rose petals).
I shouldn’t have to preface this by saying girls like nice things but, “Girls obvi like nice things” it just doesn’t have to be all the time… and it doesn’t have to be some grand gesture. (ie. giving you a rose every time he sees you)
You’re going to have your romance in your own way. My romantic things might be drinking a cup of coffee in a special spot, or going on a bike ride, or whatever. Your romantic things might be watching a specific movie together or eating breakfast for dinner. Whatever it is, I think it’s safe to say that you don’t want a guy that just can’t stop playing footsie with you under the table, or someone who whispers sweet nothings into your ear for hours.
Ladies, it’s easy to feel the need for a fairytale romance – heck I catch myself thinking about it sometimes. But, practically speaking, there aren’t many guys out there who keep a stash of live roses in the backseat of their car so they’re ready at a moments notice. Don’t hold out for those guys, because they
aren’t real are few and far between, and people don’t say this enough but… I don’t think that’s what you want.
If you’re single and you’re feeling down and out and you’re thinking, “Whatever, she’s in a relationship so she doesn’t know.” Just remember, I haven’t always been in a relationship… before I was dating Jason, I was dating no one – I just mostly wished I was dating JTT or Justin Timberlake.
I had to learn about my romance in the moment. And honestly, I’m still learning. But I can tell you this much: it’s nothing like I imagined it would be.
My knight in shining armor likes to play video games and drink iced vanilla lattes, he buys Star Wars novels and has tattoos, he’s a quiet guy but he is one of the funniest people I know, and he’s only bought me flowers a few times (and only one time just because). You know what the most romantic thing about him is? He had the guts to ask me out one day, decided to date me even though I made a stupid joke about what time we should meet, and now he loves me for me.
While our story would make a pretty boring romantic comedy, it’s the perfect romance for me. Have standards, but make sure your standards are attainable and realistic. Look for your fairytale, but don’t think it’ll look like ___________ (insert any romantic comedy/Disney movie/romance novel here). Your romance is out there, don’t write off those random guys so quickly, who knows… that “Regular Guy” could be your “Knight in Shining Armor”.